I’ve become more of a people watcher than ever over the last couple of years. I see clearly something I wish to share if you are interested.
I’ve known chronic pain, desperation, and frustration….but nothing prepared me for simple JEALOUSY.
Not mine, but others jealousy. Why would anyone want my life?
Don’t get me wrong, I do love my life, but I wouldn’t wish many of my tougher experiences on anyone.
So I sit back and I watch and I listen, I am not a victim, however I’ve had my fair share of challenges. I can honestly say I am not a jealous person, I know it’s an emotion that can undermine so many people, to their detriment.
I see it at play almost every day.
Life hasn’t given me the Jealousy gene, aren’t I lucky?
I now live in a relationship, with a man that like me, has no jealousy issues. We have a deep trust and we communicate, and we both have a strong sense of self.
In my watching of people I see so clearly the damage jealousy does, especially in Social Media. I watch the Ego’s at play, full of the uncertainties and self-doubt, totally unaware of their critical inner voices that trigger their reasons for jealousy.
I dream of the day that people stop, just for a moment or longer!!
And listen to their driving inner voices that they learn to communicate their fears, suspicions, and mistrusts in their closest relationships and friendships.
That they self-challenge what makes them anxious, rather than lashing out.
Even if this may cause their inner voice attacks to intensify, feel it and express it, is the key to freedom.
How can others assist you if you are not honest, and you don’t share what you are experiencing, it takes ignorance and a mislead ego to assume other people will know what your inner voices are saying?
When you learn to hear and feel your internal triggers and the roots of your jealous feelings and you can communicate them clearly, you will find you CAN weaken the internal jealous enemy. Doing this strengthens both you and your sense of self.
This will enable you to accept the reality that you are cared for maybe even loved and reject the mis-perception that you are going to be betrayed.
And if there were an infidelity or a sense of being left out, you would be much better able to get through it if you weren’t letting your critical inner voice get the better of you.
Embrace your Jealousy; see it as a gift of self-discovery to strengthen your inner core and being, doing so in a healthy way can bring you so much peace.
The next time you feel that twinge of jealousy, stop, take your awareness within, feel it, express it to yourself, have the conversation with the person who triggered you if possible rather than expressing it negatively and destroying your valuable friendships.
And remember don’t judge another till you’ve walked a kilometer or so in their blundstones.
Peace & Love
© Astarté Earthwise